A broken heart can sometimes feel like a huge life-altering event, especially if it isn’t your first time flirting with heartbreak. And while it might feel therapeutic to stay indoors with a box of tissues for an entire week, the reality is that this isn’t beneficial to your long-term mental health.

Give yourself enough time to reflect upon the relationship without opening up any further questions which could only cause more pain down the road. Try these three steps to help overcome a broken heart, and let yourself become open to the idea of a new, extraordinary relationship.

Step 1: Consciously uncouple from social media

All this social media means that we’re always connected, even with people we longer share a connection with. If you don’t feel like removing them completely from your online presence, then it’s a good idea to decrease the amount of time you spend on social media.

Facebook, Twitter, Instagram and even LinkedIn have become ways to check up on your ex-partner, but how will this benefit you in the long term? Put your smart phone on airplane mode when working, taking part in exercise and even having dinner, since it can have a positive effect on your overall mood. Checking up on an ex via social media will do nothing but add to your heartbreak, especially if it appears that they’ve moved on.

Step 2: Find new hobbies

Immersing yourself in a new and exciting hobby or activity is the best way to deal with a broken heart. Not only is a new environment great for your mind, but it will also have positive impacts on your overall health. It might feel a little scary to go at it alone, but you can always bring a friend to help make the process feel a bit easier.

There are so many options to fit into your busy work schedule such as the gym, going to yoga on a weekly basis, or even taking part in an online course which can add to your qualifications. There are also loads of flexible night or weekend-friendly activities which will help ease your heartbreak and build your self esteem.

Step 3: Learn to self-love

We can often feel powerless after an emotional heartbreak, and it’s important to make sure that our mental health is not neglected. Self-love is the most important step since it’s all about nourishing the mind, body and spirit and learning to stand on your own two feet. It might feel a little impossible at first, especially since a broken heart can badly bruise your ego, and make you feel like you’ve lost your mojo.

Luckily, one of the best ways to cultivate this new relationship with yourself is through the power of positive affirmations. Not only can they influence your current state of mind, but they can also help get you on the right track with family and friend relationships. Try these every morning and evening before going to bed:

I open myself to love

I am grateful for everything in my life

I trust my inner light and intuition to guide me

I forgive those who have harmed me in the past, and peacefully detach from them

Looking at the positive things in life can really help your current state of mind, especially in hindsight if your relationship was toxic and unhealthy. Keep a tight circle of friends and family, which will uplift your spirit and add to your positive state of mind.